How to deal with rejection in the workplace...

It has become clear to me that how we respond to failure is one of the most significant factors in determining success.

So, what are the key learning points when dealing with rejection in a work environment?

1. Deal with the emotional aspect of this rejection

It is disappointing if we put ourselves out there, go for a new role or seek progression and get knocked back. When we feel an emotion it has a purpose, a message. It will keep knocking until you hear it, so listen to it and acknowledge how you feel about the situation. People often experience upset, disappointment, frustration, regret or even relief when rejection hits. This can give you a valuable insight into how much you want the progression you are seeking (or not) and be a powerful driving force for future success. 

2. Stay positive and don’t allow any resentment or bitterness to show at work.

This can be easier said than done! There is no harm in showing the disappointment you feel about rejection at work however frame this in the positive i.e. how can I use this as a learning experience and do better next time? If you appear angry, bitter or jealous of others progression this may leave an unhelpful impression with the ‘powers that be’.

3. Ask for feedback on how you could improve/achieve your goal in future

Requesting and responding appropriately to feedback demonstrates both maturity and continued ambition. This is a great opportunity to find out why you didn’t make it this time, what are the ‘interviewers’ or boss looking for before you will get that promotion or new role so you can begin working on it.

4. Take action on the feedback

You may find you cannot take all steps immediately but you can do something. For example, if opportunities for promotion only come along every so often you may have to wait before applying again. However, consider the feedback and identify what you can do in the short and long term in preparation for future success. Begin to work on this and seek opportunities to meet this need.

5. Recognise your strengths

When faced with rejection it can be difficult to recognise your existing skills and strengths. Reflect on what you have done well so far, any positive feedback you received and begin to re-focus on the future. You get more of what you focus on and as a result, focusing on strengths and success breeds more strength and success!!